21 Jan Understanding the Four Quotients to Help your Child Succeed
“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”
As parents of young children, it is easy to become overwhelmed by the amount of information thrown at you about milestones and development markers.
It may sound easy to start thinking that your kid needs to be good in Math or be a budding scientist to get ahead in tomorrow’s job market but experts agree that another set of skills are important for kids to learn in order to succeed, no matter what field they go into.
According to Employment North, among the qualities that employers prefer when looking for employees are determination, persistence, ability to collaborate and communicate effectively.
These are skills that we are definitely not born with, but rather must learn as we grow.
And since early childhood is when lifelong needed skills and virtues are formed, it is better for us parents, to focus on these aspects to encourage the development of these quotients.
Executive Function Quotient
Executive Function Quotient (EFQ) refers to a set of skills that help us to plan, make decisions, stay on task, and exercise self-control. This skill set relies on three kinds of brain function:
Flexible Thinking: The ability to alter our way of thinking about something in the wake of an unexpected event and also the ability to approach a subject in various ways.
Working Memory: The capacity to acquire, retain, and utilize information for short periods of time.
Impulse Control: The ability to suppress urges and resist impulsive reactions in order to focus on other activities or goals.
While babies are not born with these abilities, as children grow and develop they have the opportunity to develop them.
All they need are the proper conditions in their surroundings and stronger relationships with family and friends.
Developing healthy executive function helps children with a variety of daily activities such as: managing emotions, initiating and completing tasks, focusing and shifting attention when appropriate, controlling impulses, and planning and organization.
So How can I help my child improve executive function?
There are several ways you can help your child develop strong executive function. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Make self-reflection a daily activity to help your child manage their emotions
You can do this by asking them to share both positive and negative experiences from their day. This can help them process their emotions and identify why they feel a certain way about a certain event. It can also provide the perfect opportunity for meaningful conversations.
2. Create a schedule for daily activities and checklists for tasks to be completed
Doing this will help your child learn to initiate and complete their activities in a timely manner. This will also encourage them to learn how to organize and plan. Both of these skills can be difficult even for adults to master. However, with practice it is more than possible to develop and improve, no matter where your child is currently in their development.
3. Use an obstacle course to practice focusing, paying attention, and shifting attention appropriately
An obstacle course is a great way to use play to encourage the development of these skills. You can change the rules or route every time they go through the course to challenge them to incorporate and utilize the new information.
4. Practice Self -control
To help your child learn to control urges, you can play games like “red light and green light”. Self-control can help children pay attention in class, act less impulsively, and focus on the task at hand without giving in to distractions.
The Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is a measure of human intelligence that expresses the mental age of an individual in relation to their chronological age multiplied by 100.
Theoretically, in order for IQ to be maintained, one’s mental age must go up along with chronological age over time.
When a child turns about 18 years of age, they are considered to have fully developed intellectual abilities.
These intellectual abilities can be influenced by a wide range of factors, including genetic and environmental.
When children are young, it is important to stimulate intellectual development in order to help them optimize their natural potential for learning and cognitive function.
How Can I Stimulate my Child’s Intellectual Development?
1. Proper Nutrition
Studies have shown that receiving proper nutrition in early childhood is crucial for the development of a normal IQ.
2. Read to your Children at a Young Age
Encourage your child to read books by reading to them. Start reading to them from the very beginning and remember to always read with animation to bring each story to life.
3. Play Games that Require Concentration and Challenges
Brain games are activities that stimulates your thinking. For kids, these may include puzzles, board games, memory games and even ABC Blocks.
Emotional Intelligence, or Emotional Quotient (EQ), refers to the behavior control skills that we develop through socialization and interacting with others, especially empathy and self-awareness.
In recent years, EQ has even been considered to have a larger impact on educational and life outcomes than IQ.
How can I help my child develop healthy emotional intelligence?
1. Be a Role Model
Like many things, the best way to teach a desired behavior is to model the same behavior. Throughout various stages of development, and especially in early childhood, children tend to mimic the behavior of their caregivers and others around them.
2. Show your child Empathy
Whenever your child is upset or when something is bothering them, try to understand the situation and why they are feeling that way. While you may not be able to fix the situation, at least being there for them and letting them know that you understand how they feel helps to improve their emotional intelligence. They have the opportunity to reflect on their feelings and begin to develop empathy when in a similar position.
3. Give them an Outlet for Self-expression
Accepting your child’s feelings and allowing them to express themselves teaches them to observe and accept their emotions. Also, it gives the child useful tools to learn to manage their emotions.
Finally, one of the most important life skills you can help your child with is to develop their ability in coping with challenges and solving problems.
Resilience or Adversity Quotient was coined by Paul Stoltz. According to him, adversity quotient measures the ability of a person to deal with setbacks and adversities in his or her life.
It is how well they handle a difficult situation and find the best course of action to solve a problem.
Children needs to learn that encountering challenges and failures is part of life and has nothing to do with bad luck.
They need to learn to take adversity in their stride, and learn to cope well so they can pick themselves up gracefully each time they fall.
How to Improve Resilience Quotient?
1.Help your Child Learn to Solve Problems
By teaching them problem solving techniques, like brainstorming for solutions, you will help them become more independent. This helps to empower them to recognize their strengths and make decisions while looking for productive outlets.
2. Learn from Mistakes and Failures
Let your children know that it’s ok to make mistakes as every mistake has the power to teach you something important. Encourage your children to identify the lesson in every failure so they can learn from it.
3. Boost their Self-Esteem
The best way to help your child build their self-esteem is to give them constant love and support. Treating them as important, special individuals will help them feel loved and give them a higher sense of self-worth.
Related: 10 Tips to Raise a Resilient Child
Successfully raising a well-rounded child who can overcome failures with a smile presents challenges for even the most seasoned parents.
By helping your child to develop these important life skills, you will be giving them a leg-up in their overall development and prepare them for the real world.