14 Feb How to Tame a Tantrum Easily
Tantrums come in a number of different types among children. Most of the tantrums in toddlers revolve around explosions of disorganized behaviour, frustration, and extreme anger.
When you toddler loses it, you may observe him/her crying, stiffening the limbs, falling down, running around, throwing things, an arched back and a lot more. Sometimes, children also tend to hold their breath and/or try to vomit.
Now, there are a number of reasons why tantrums may happen. Often at times, children are unable to find words to express how they feel. Atop this, their social skills are just developing when they are around 2 – 4 years of age. This can result in feelings of frustration and anger, and is a way for young children to manage how they feel.
In this article, we talk about a number of ways in which you can tame your child’s tantrums. These include:
- Remain consistent
Often at times, children throw tantrums when they face resistance for something that they want to do. Mostly, they do this as a way to escape. When you tell your toddler to do something that he/she does not wish to do (such as leaving the playground), he/she may throw a tantrum.
However, it is important to let the child know that a resistance from his/her side will not change your decisions. If you give up, the child may permanently internalize tantrums as a coping mechanism for resistance. Hence, remain consistent!
- Keep calm
It can be extremely annoying to see your child freaking out and throwing things away out of anger. It may even cause you to erupt. However, remember that if you get mad or yell at the child, it would make things worse.
In such situations, it is important to stay calm and to allow the child to let it all out (without hurting himself). Do let your toddler know that you are not happy with his/her behaviour. By modelling a calm behaviour yourself this way, your toddler may soon follow in your footsteps to remain calm even when he/she is angry or frustrated.
- Ignore the tantrum
Sometimes, children throw tantrums as means to seek attention. Most of the toddlers do not usually understand the difference between negative and position attention. So instead of yelling or punishing the toddler, let him/her work on it. This do not certainly mean that you have to totally take the silent approach. Rather, just try to calm him/her down and comfort him/her until the child gives in. Till then, you should not give up!
- Distract the child
Often at times, it is possible to distract the child with something else when you experience an onset of a tantrum. For instance, before the child outbursts, tell him/her a joke. Or perhaps, talk about something good that he/she may be looking forward to. That may serve as a good distraction.
However, distraction does not always work for many toddlers. So experiment around, and see what works for your child. After all, every child is different.
- Patience is virtue
Last but not least, be patient with your child. Please remember that they are not equipped at that age to be super communicators, and neither were you when you were their age.
If once is not enough, teach them how to communicate twenty or even one hundred times. Kids role model after us. When we get frustrated with them because of our “expectation” – i.e. they are not behaving the way we like them to, they will be the same and be impatient or act out with us when they don’t get their way.
Show them love and patience consistently, and they will learn it the less contradictory way.