18 Nov How Do I Get my Child to Listen?
Getting your child to listen can be a real struggle for parents.
It can be frustrating to communicate with them – only to have them ignore you in the process.
When it comes to talking to kids, I learned the hard way that the way instructions are given can be just as important as what we are trying to communicate.
Here are some tried and tested tips for less nagging and more hugging:
GET ON THEIR LEVEL
Don’t start talking until you have your child’s full attention.
Kneel down in front of him and make eye contact while making your request.
A friendly touch on the arm, or other physical connection is also helpful.
Kids do not want to be told what to do all the time so always provide them two choices for them to pick from so they will feel that they are in control of the situation.
USE FEWER WORDS
Children need short and simple sentences that offer direct instructions.
Get your child’s attention and use as few words as possible to avoid confusion.
Speak to your child at a level she will understand.
Once you’ve given the request, ask your child to paraphrase what you just said, instead of telling them.
SET UP ROUTINES
It is important for you to establish a set of routine for your child.
With a routine, a child will learn over time when it’s time to brush their teeth or fix the bed.
They will take pride in knowing what they are supposed to do – and doing it by themselves without you nagging.
It is necessary that you set an example by listening to them and giving them the attention they want when they are speaking to you.
Having good family communication and active listening can do several things to encourage your child to listen.
GET INTO THEIR SPACE
Show them respect when you make time to listen to their concerns, and it will be easier for them to show respect back when they feel respected.
When you want your kids to cooperate, it is easier if they understand why they need to do something and how this can help them.
They need to see the importance of following directions.
USE POSITIVE LANGUAGE
Children respond better to direct instructions that tell them what to do rather than what cannot be done.
When your child follows your directions, provide positive consequences to reinforce the behavior like a compliment or a surprise reward once in a while.
When the parenting game gets rough, we often feel the need to have lots of tricks up in our sleeves to turn it to a better experience.
However, we also need to keep in mind that it’s not what we say but how we say it that truly makes a difference.