02 Dec 10 Tips to Raise Powerful and Confident Girls
“Behind every child who believes in herself is a parent who believed first”– Matthew Jacobson
I’m not the most confident person – I’m a work in progress but I’ve come a long way since I have struggled with my own confidence while growing up.
And like any parent in this complicated world, I hope to impart an easier path for my daughter to help her express her emotions clearly and make her feel more comfortable in her own skin.
So how do we exactly raise our little girls to believe in their full potential and rescue themselves instead of waiting for their handsome prince to rescue them?
Teach your little girls the skills they’ll need to tackle life’s toughest challenges head-on with these ten tips:
Pursue a Passion
Ellen Galinsky, author of Mind in the Making, stresses how important it is to let your daughter know that her passions and interests are vital.
According to her, “Take the things that your daughter shows an interest in and help build on and deepen those so that ultimately she has a passion for something.”
Full engagement with an activity she loves will give her the opportunity to master challenges, which will boost her self-esteem and resilience.
Let Her Make Choices
Give your daughter the opportunity to practice decision-making skills by involving her in everyday choices.
It can be simple tasks like choosing what to wear or what to pack for lunch.
With every decision, they will learn to realize whether their choices were good or bad and that they’re responsible for the consequences of their actions.
Give Her Space to Fail
Experience has always been the best teacher so allow your daughter to make mistakes to learn first-hand how to handle disappointments.
If your goal as parents is to have a strong and confident child, you should stop ourselves from protecting your daughters from every setback and obstacle and instead, help them learn from their mistakes so they can avoid doing the same things over again.
Urge your daughter to go beyond her comfort zone and encourage her that she can achieve anything she sets her mind to.
Putting your daughter in sports at an early age makes her appreciate her body for its strength rather than its beauty.
Joining different sports will also help encourage her to participate in team-building activities to know the importance of teamwork.
Believe in Her
It’s not enough to know that you believe in your daughter.
You have to tell her over and over again.
The more she hears it from you, the more she will believe in herself.
Allow Her to Disagree
According to Adam Grant, a professor of management and psychology at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, the trick is to teach children to argue without making things personal.
This skill is very important as this will ensure that our daughters are well-equipped to handle their own battles as they grow up.
Help Her Love Herself
Every girl is different so embrace your daughter’s uniqueness, creativity, drive, and encourage her individuality so she would learn to love herself despite imperfections.
Limit Social Media to Small Doses
Give your daughter more time to develop her own ideas, creativity, and imagination from her experiences rather than drawing comparisons from other people in social medias.
Model Confident Behavior
Always be aware of how you act and speak around your daughter. When she sees you as confident, she is more likely to be that way herself.
Praise your daughter when you observe moments of strong character like perseverance, kindness,courage, and honesty rather than performance or appearance. Emphasize the positive traits that add to her personality, instead of physical appearance.
Raising strong, smart, confident, and powerful girls can be both difficult and exciting.
Powerful girls grow up feeling confident about themselves so let your daughter follow her own dreams, encourage her to speak up for her beliefs, and praise her for her grit and resiliency.
Above all, believe in your daughter and let her know.
If yours, buck the convention of what little girls should be like, believe that they’re meant to do something else.